#051: Focus; you're not an octopus
Freedom, choice, depth, and more tiny yet precious life moments
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Focus feels harder than ever these days. Everyone wants to do all the things—be everywhere, join every group, pop up in every corner. And yeah, I get it (we all do). Exploration matters. Connection matters. Adventure matters. Also, apparently, checking your notifications every three minutes matters.
And yet, some days, focus feels impossible. Days when I scroll my phone like it’s a full-time job (Reddit chismis, hello? :D). Days when a blank page stares back at me like, “O, ano na?” until I shut my laptop. Days when a project I care about just won’t click. Days when life responsibilities pile up, and suddenly I feel like a super octopus, supposed to do it all…and maybe even solve world peace. (Exag, lol! Usahay OA ra jud.)
Here’s what I keep coming back to: sometimes the smartest move isn’t adding more—it’s letting go. Staying low, quiet, slow. Lingering long enough to actually hear my own curiosity and my own voice.
Focusing.
Paying even closer attention to what I actually do well, what I love, and what I want to get better at.
This year, I’m doing that again—staying in my lane, playing to my strengths, putting in the work that counts. Less noise, more breathing space. Exploration, connection, adventure—they’re still here—but they’re in service of the projects I love, the ideas I’m building, and the growth I can truly be proud of.
Because focus isn’t restriction. It’s freedom. It’s choice. It’s depth.
So if you’re feeling like I do sometimes—the day is too long, the world is too loud, or your cats just demanded their eighth treat…apir. Maybe it’s time we focus together—slow down, linger, listen—to see and hear not just ourselves, but everything that actually matters.
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That’s all for now! I hope you picked up something fun or useful. Talk again soon!
☀️ KB
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i needed this reminder! thank you for writing ❤️